choose the best possible man, or to be exact, provider. Nothing you read or learn will help you. Thank you very much. 5) Problems leading long-term relationships. happen and now there are consequences: possibly guilt, insecurities form in If you cant provide a woman with certain things you will always leave the possibility of that relationship going in the wrong direction. Its all we have. As a GF or a FB, then men dont care what her count is. considerations including self-worth, that daddy used to go on long I wouldnt. There are a lot more incidents which i wont get into for the sake of keeping this short. I am trying to be forgiving which is why this article was very validating and informative. Is it because you, yourself, in your heart of hearts, have a problem with someone having a lot of sex? Embrace that, and keep your focus on why you love her today, not what she was before you ever even knew her. I will never marry a girl who waspromiscuousin the past. We have had this conversation. Probably not while having sex with her either. Employers, colleges, every institution we have asks about past because it matters. the women do to. (-_-)/. Also women (and some men) get bored quickly these days. Nobody is talking about women who are prudish or disinterested in sex. By your logic, if we make no judgments on our potential mates, and the past doesnt matter, it should not matter if our potential mate was a child rapist for 20 years, as long as s/he isnt currently raping children. Youre talking like sex just happens when in reality most of these women with hella bodies make conscious decisions to let all of these men have a part of them. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. In The Bible also JESUS is calling people to LOVE, because LOVE hides our unperfections and we can still have a great relationship without being like every Tom Dick and Harry, but like JESUS. But you know what, screw it. Eh. ever since the sexual revolution the chances for marriage in Western society have declined and its exactly because of the easy availability of poontang( and the attitude of divorce court towards men).Should not matter ? You can question the theory of evolution, or gravity, or anything else, but your questioning doesnt impugn their validity. The more you can talk rationally and openly to her, the better the relationship will be. Here, we have a beautiful quiz for you. Its an individual thing as to how they perceive themselves. Whats cool is having the personal pride, and self-respect to give your body to every man who shows you interest. Give me the infected one having only 2 men rather than the clean one after 30 physical infections have cure infections in the soul dont . Shes going to be somebodys wife or girlfriend, because he values her more than his immature philosophy. When we learn how to maximize on the other things you can still be a better lover than the man who may have been bigger. Im not bitter, Im BETTER andin retrospect, I can say this: as a man, it is impossible for me to love a woman more than I trust her. But I notice that its mostly inexperienced and insecure men who seem to be the most concerned about it. Would you marry a girl who slept around? My guy friend in #1 is doing exactly that. Well sir, my past should not matter. and it goes on. Can it work out with an ex a bit further down the line? This might sound harsh but we make quite a few harsh jokes towards each other it's jut our sense of humor; when things like this have come up I've made jokes about her being a thot(slang that is mostly synonymous with slut but easier to use in a joking manner and less hurtful) and she's made jokes about her self in that light literally calling herself a thot and as far as I could tell it hasn't hurt her feelings. I dont need booty call lovers hanging around, nor do I need or want others with a sexual desire lingering to get fired up later for whatever reason. After all, the past is the past, and none of us are perfect, and who are we to judge, right? That being said I will speak for both sides on ways I Imagine for a moment that the United States was an egalitarian society. And no, the man is not estimating. Really? The West is the last, civilized group that needs to comment Your source was concerned with the myth of high rate of divorce in general, and was not studying the relatively high incidences of higher divorce amongst women with more sexual partners. Because mens focus on a A person exposing the number of past partners has nothing to do with the present moments situation. I would find disgusting to kiss a woman of that kind. Thank you, Lord, for writing my name in Your Lambs Book of Life and sealing me with Your Holy Spirit! I dont think u r being objective. thats okay. So before any of you judge anyone think about what they may have gone through or still going through. She says she has toned it down and has only been sleeping with one guy this year who she has had a fwb thing with for a bit but we're not at the point where I would feel it would come off as anything less than insecure and as if I was threatened if I asked her to stop with this guy but I will obviously ask what the deal is with that once thing get more serious with us as I think it's just getting to the point of possible exclusivity. A woman who has slept with 100 meninevitablyhas certain qualities of character, and inevitably has certain boundary issues, and inevitably has lower standards when it comes to who she allows access to her body. My wife of 25 years has been with several partners and had sex including loosing her virginity. Hallelujah!!! But I think it is a mistake, and not the best approach to walk away from a woman that you feel is genuinely showing herself to be the woman you desire today. So shes had a lot of partners at the same time in the past- if everyone in the situation knew what was up (that there was no expectation of monogamy), then theres no harm to it! And some people can change quickly and some more slowly! They are always controlled and can never be trusted at all because they will get around and bang lots of men. What I want to encourage you to do is to understand what is done is done. Poll your male friends and see how many of them dream of settling down and building a family with a slut. someone, you want to not only know about who they are, but who they University of Virginia says it does matter if you want a happy marriage. You just got the best husband around! And our son, how would he view women? I doubt youd go for that. You GO GIRL! While you are Dating or trying to marry a woman who have lived life and around 35+ age and then you realized you are just a number and may be not. I really dont care whether you believe the truth of the matter or not, as I dont care whether you believe in evolution, gravity, or anything else. It And you, or any other woman can do whatever she wants, and be as promiscuous as she wants. Men always have an ideal and fantasize; women are guilty of that as well, but b/c of societal conditioning, we accept this double-standard. Are you telling me that the number of sex partners she then tells you is worth walking away from this woman. And I really wouldnt want one of the Town Tomcats as my husband or future father of my children either. So, somebody who has raped a person years agoshouldnt have that counted againstthem because that isnt who they really are now? If I decide to marry, it will be a woman with confidence, character, and class, and not a slut. 2023 Applicants - do you understand how student finance works? Which lets face it, is what she is looking for and why shell never be truly happen in life. Its all psychology. I agree. Doctor lady walks up and says hey it has been forever how are you. So a young fertile woman was his best bet. People learn and grow from their experiences. Men are not exempt! Dont allow the negative thoughts to hinder your relationship or your overall quality of life. That just tells men you will move onto the next best thing when it comes to you. Not just with them, but with you. As simple as that, why be ashamed or beat yourself up over a number if numbers didnt define a hoe then her actions would. I choose not to do that because that is not what this discussion should be about. It is a misconception and must be updated to reflect women as real human beings and not abstract ideals. If a person really loves another person the numbers won't matter, but if one of those people when asked "How many people have you slept with?" They're your property. Hm why is it that a woman can have sex with 50 men and have all of them ejaculate in her and expect possibly only 1 life in the world in a year AND NOT KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS! A lot of men would have a problem respecting and trusting a woman that is currently on or has been on the hoe stroll as you call it. Stephen are u being real? they hold higher standards for their partners, as they should. It's not just red pill stuff that is telling me this is a bad idea as I have heard my whole life from every which direction that dating a slutty girl is a bad idea and I have agreed with this logic and have tried to avoid this situation but honestly I like this girl a lot and we have a ridiculous amount of chemistry and if she wasn't a slut I would have no reservations. I completely agree with you that a woman's sexual health (i.e. has slept with. Thats a load of crap! It matter amd why I dont see my damn comment I posted on here about thisarticle? I can only imagine the disappointment her parents or my mother would express if they knew the truth about her. Just say you finnaly got a date, where would you go? I think this line of thought has been promoted as she said she's "only slept with one person this year" in a serious way when I have only slept with one person my whole life. That's pretty low for a guy". Ill try to stay afloat and let you know what I think. If a woman has been with one man, but is still carrying baggage from that situation. Then she hit me with the old.Those men were before I met you, they should not matter, it is all in the past. Not really. Now if the real reason you hold this against a woman is because you dont want to have to compete with the level of pleasure her past lovers provided, well you just need help then. Lets be serious. Does that past lover (so to speak) affect her current situation? One called her a hoe. a lot of double standards as usual in todays society yes maybe people are a bit too free or promiscuous but a number shouldnt affect you or eat you up inside and if it does could mean you missing out on a, sex and b, someone special. No, it can most certainly simply be about the actual number. So does that mean that once you accumulate some baggage that you are stuck with it forever? Education can do wonders! Even research has provided proof that men do desire promiscuous women but only temporarily for sexual purposes. If he looks upset, I'll just say something like, 'I'm sorry,' when he stops talking. That means theyve had a different boyfriend for every year that theyve started dating. Is she a hoe or as you said on a hoe stroll? Women need to get it together!!!! I was promiscuous in 9th-10th grade. or do I want that same wear and tear from sleeping with me 200 times?? That to me just doesnt seem like it is the best way to go about things, but that is my opinion and I will respect yours. Much like you are forcing the woman in your life to do, would you rather start out a relationship based on a lie? Who you choose to share it intimately with matters. LOL!! Excellent point. GOD absolutely knows more than I can ever imagine or begin to comprehend, but I think you are not properly receiving the message of this article. I do not like the double standard but I cannot deny that it exists. When done, breath deeply,. Probably not, but its still a shock every time I think about it. In fact, white middle-class college-educated women in their twenties are widely recognized by researchers to have more sex partners than any other group of women; the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth reports that women in these three categories (of race, income and education) have the highest proportions of four or more partners over their lifetimes (39).https://karmak.org/archive/2002/10/portrait.html. So its not a double standard at all. See, I can understand a man deciding not to be with that woman because their views and values dont line up. Ive read about a porn star named Shelly Lubben that got married and stay married. I literally threw up. Whether you question it or not is irrelevant. can be decreased. This is a really touchy issue for me. confines of marriages, or at least committed, loving relationships at the So take a second and ask yourself why it matters. Notoriety. 2. panophobic. I have just as much right to sleep with however many men I chose, even if its none. To use the analogy of work, yes, fair comment. I think people need to stop judging one another and get to know a person for who they are now and not the person they were in the past. I just dont think that is ever worth passing on a woman that may be the right woman for that man. You dont get to judge. So in my opinion the way to ensure more virgins and keep women in that box is to slander anyone that steps outside of that. I saw her the next day and asked why she acts like that toward me, and she said "BECAUSE YOU'RE UGLY". Animals in nature **** and get the hell on and have never had a problem I dont know why humans try to put themselves so high on the food chain of nature. Ugh. Your email address will not be published. Trust me when I say articles like this or similar positions on this issue are not the real issue when it comes to women acting like men. It refers to a woman . I dont even make eye contact with other men. 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